I often times find myself comparing my life to others. It’s a horrible, horrible habit of mine. One that I’m hoping to work on and obliterate from my life. In the past, I’ve found myself getting jealous at the fact that others have more than I do or are able to go on vacations or do more than I’m able to. And the thing is, I am blessed beyond all measure. I have SO MUCH compared to others. I may not be able to take two-week vacations to Europe, going out to eat for me is going to Chik-Fil-A, and buying new clothes oftentimes means buying one new shirt…on clearance…at Old Navy. But I have a loving family, a roof over my head, heat in my house, and food in my belly, among a slew of other luxuries.
[Stephen playing with the little guy]
When I start to get down about not having the things I want (take note: things I want and don’t need), Stephen always helps me to put things into perspective. I make assumptions that the people I know who have more than me are better off financially. And, a lot of times, this isn’t the case. We live in a culture where most people live beyond their means. We have so much yet always want more. People that are taking big vacations every year and going out to eat constantly at nice restaurants likely have large amounts of unnecessary debt. It’s so important for each of us to not compare ourselves to others. And, just as important, is to not make assumptions about others. It’s damaging to both parties. For the person making the assumption, you harbor a lot of negativity, jealousy, and bitterness. I don’t think I need to elaborate on why holding on to those feelings is not good. And for the other person, they’re being completely misjudged. Your attitude towards them can affect the way you, and others, treat them.
What I’d like for you, and myself, to take away from this post is to not compare yourself to others. To delight in your successes and, also, the successes of others. Secondly, it’s not a horrible thing to have wants but it is important to not let it overcome you. And you don’t want it to negatively affect your attitude towards others and what you have been blessed with.